你并不是懒，你只是需要放慢脚步

> 🔗 原文链接：https://flowus.cn/caozhecn/374a9912... > ⏰ 剪存时间：2025-02-23 22:25:28 (UTC+8) > ✂️ 本文档由 飞书剪存 一键生成德文·普莱斯曾养过一只名叫“Dumptruck”的宠物龙猫，这只小动物让他明白了一个道理：

作为一个人，我们不需要通过努力和高效率来证明自己存在的价值。“它一辈子都没做过一件有意义的事，”普莱斯说到。这位社会心理学家、《懒惰不存在（Laziness Does Not Exist）》一书的作者表示，Dumptruck可以说是效率的反面典型，坦白讲，还相当具有破坏力。

“我从来不会用它是否为自己的存在正名这个标准来看待它的生活。它不用付房租，不用提供任何服务。用这些标准来衡量它的生活简直是荒谬的，”他说。“ 我认为动物启发了我们：我们无需通过努力奋斗来证明自己存在的价值。当我们静静地坐在沙发上呼吸时，我们也是美好、可爱且值得被爱的。

如果我们能像爱我们的宠物、爱我们的亲人那样爱自己，不用工作产出来评判自己的价值，我们就能开始以平等的方式对待自己。”

德文·普莱斯的宠物龙猫“Dumptruck” 普莱斯指出，“懒惰”这一概念常常被巧妙地用来让人们感到自己缺乏生产力和价值。他称之为一个谎言，一个让我们相信自己总是可以做得更多的陷阱——无论是工作、人际关系还是家庭——而价值等同于生产力。

他建议，与其把“懒惰”视为一种缺陷，试图用咖啡因或加班来克服它，不如 把懒惰当作一个信号，提醒你可能需要休息一下 。他表示：“懒惰通常是我们身心发出的警告信号，说明某些方面出了问题，人体非常擅长通过信号告诉我们需要什么。

然而，我们几乎都学会了尽可能地忽视这些信号，因为它们会威胁到我们在工作中的生产效率和集中力。” 这种追求成就的心态实际上可能正对你造成伤害，重新审视“懒惰”可能会使我们更富有同情心。Life Kit在与普莱斯的访谈中谈论了过分强调“努力工作”而忽视我们自己健康的问题、那些常被贴上懒惰标签的人群、以及懒惰可能为我们的生活带来的正面影响。

以下是采访中的高亮观点：一、为什么过度强调“努力工作”存在问题？我们生活在这样的一个现实中：人们清楚地意识到我们的生存依赖于工作能力。

因此，我们中许多人不由自主地过度工作，这种行为虽然自我挫败，但又显得合情合理。认为“我必须依靠自己，努力工作并赚取大量金钱以自给自足”实际上是一种自我限制的想法。这种思维方式也会让人对其他人持有更加悲观的看法，认为其他人和他们的需求都对自己的独立性和个人主义构成了威胁。

这不仅使我们变得孤立无援，还因为自己的辛苦而对不尽力的同事产生批判，从而可能陷入工作狂和孤立的恶性循环中。二、那些常被贴上“懒惰”标签的人那些面临各种心理健康问题，如焦虑、ADHD（注意力缺陷与多动障碍）、抑郁等的人，常常在生活中被误认为是懒惰。

当他们感到精疲力尽，或是在艰难度过一段压力巨大的时光时，旁人往往看不到他们内心的挣扎，只是武断地认为他们缺乏意志力或是懒惰。处于边缘地位的群体，尤其是有色人种，常常以各种隐秘的方式被打上“懒惰”的标签。他们表现出的习得性无助感，其实只是准确反映了自身所处的困境：

在这个环境中，他们得不到自由和自主，也无法获得应有的尊重，更没有机会表达内心的声音。

因此，当我们说某些人“懒惰”时，他们可能只是在从一个非常不公平、缺乏激励的处境中选择了退出。三、 懒惰如何帮助我们明确价值观和认清自我我认为，懒惰就像是矿井中的金丝雀（译注：煤矿工人过去用金丝雀检测矿井中的危险气体）， 它提醒我们，当前的生活方式与内心的价值观产生了偏差 。

我们常常过于在意在工作中给人留下深刻印象，满足朋友和家人的种种要求，竭尽全力在各个方面超越自我，却忽视了内心的声音：“ 什么是我生命中最重要的？我真正信仰和珍视的是什么？如果不是为了取悦他人，我理想的生活方式是怎样的？” 当我们开始正视自己的懒惰时，就能质疑许多不合理的社会标准，比如恐胖症。

这类标准要求我们的身材必须符合特定的形象，饮食和锻炼也要以特定的方式进行，一切都是为了追求一个武断的完美形象。一旦我们不再被这些武断的标准驱使，就可以问问自己：“什么才是真正有益身心的生活方式？我真正想要的时间安排是什么样的？” 四、 如何克服过度工作，不再将“努力”与自我价值划等号书中有一个练习，你也可以在网上找到，叫做 价值观澄清练习 。

这是许多心理治疗师常用的一个工具，它列出了一个人可能拥有的各种价值观，要求你对它们进行排序。这些价值观可以是成就、家庭、人际关系、谦逊、关爱他人等。如果必须从冗长的清单中选出最重要的三个，你会选择哪三个？因为我们不可能时时刻刻都对所有价值观一视同仁。

一旦你明确了生命中最重要的事物，就能看清现实生活与之有何偏差。五、 当你无法掌控自己的时间时该如何应对我们大多数人都无法完全自由地摆脱那些令我们疲惫的事务，并以一种更从容的节奏工作。不要因为没能正确地摒弃对懒惰的厌恶而自责，因为我们大多数人的自由和选择都受到了相当大的限制。

如果你身处一个不信任员工自我激励、不给予设置界限空间的工作环境，那么你真的是在一个强制性的氛围中，它会让你持续感到身心俱疲。

在这种情况下，我们往往需要考虑组建工会，及时记录问题的发生，并明确向工会展示出这样一个事实：当一名员工离职后，他们的全部工作只会被转嫁到其他人身上，而不是聘请新人来接替。原文内容：You aren't lazy. You just need to slow down September 24, 20217:

01 AM ET By Elise Hu Clare Marie Schneider A surprising influence helped author Devon Price understand what can be harmful about closely associating our worth with our work. His pet chinchilla,

Dumptruck. "He's never been productive in his life," Price says. The social psychologist and author of Laziness Does Not Exist says Dumptruck is pretty much the opposite of productive,and frankly,rather destructive. "I would never look at him and think of his life in terms of has he justified his right to exist?

He's not paying rent. He's not performing any service. And it would be absurd to even think about his life in those terms,

" he says. "I think animals help us remember that we shouldn't have to earn our right to exist. We're fine and beautiful and completely lovable when we're just sitting on the couch just breathing. And if we can feel that way about animals that we love and about,

you know,relatives that we love,people in our lives who we never judged by their productive capacity,then we can start thinking of ourselves that way,

too." Price says the idea of laziness has been effectively and expertly wielded to make people feel unproductive and unworthy. He calls it a lie,

and a trap that makes us believe there's always more we could be doing — at work,in our relationships,at home — and that worth is productivity. Instead of viewing "laziness" as a deficit or something we need to fix or overcome with caffeine or longer work hours,

Price says to think of laziness as a sign you probably need a break instead. Burnout isn't just exhaustion. Here's how to deal with it Life Kit Burnout Isn't Just Exhaustion. Here's How To Deal With It "Laziness is usually a warning sign from our bodies and our minds that something is not working,

" he says. "The human body is so incredible at signaling when it needs something. But we have all learned to ignore those signals as much as possible because they're a threat to our productivity and our focus at work." That achievement mindset might actually be hurting you. And rethinking "laziness" can lead to more compassion. Price spoke with Life Kit about the problem with emphasizing "hard work" over our own health,

the people who are often labeled as lazy and the positive impacts laziness can have in our lives. This interview has been edited for length and clarity. Interview Highlights Why overemphasizing "hard work" is problematic We live in a reality where people do accurately recognize that that we live and die by our ability to work. And so there's this self-defeating but also really rational quality to our compulsive overwork that a lot of us have. It becomes really self-defeating to say,

"I'm in this on my own. I need to work really hard and make a lot of money so that I can take care of myself." Because when you think that way,

you also take on a much gloomier view of other people. Anyone else and their needs is kind of a threat to my own kind of rugged individualism and independence. So it keeps us really isolated. It keeps us judging our co-workers for not pulling their own weight because we're suffering so hard. [It] can kind of create this downward spiral of just workaholism and isolation. The people who get tagged as lazy People who are dealing with any kind of anxiety,

ADHD,depression,any kind of mental health struggle,those are people who tend to have been called lazy throughout their lives. Any time they're out of energy or just having trouble getting through a really overwhelming moment or day,

people can't see that internal struggle. They just judge it as them lacking willpower or being lazy. Marginalized people,

especially people of color,tend to be branded as lazy a lot in a lot of really insidious ways. There's a way in which learned helplessness is really just accurately recognizing that you're in a really difficult situation where people aren't giving you freedom and autonomy and not really respecting you or letting you feel heard. So a lot of times we call people lazy when he's just kind of checking out of a really unfair situation or really unmotivated situation. How laziness actually helps us define our values and see ourselves more clearly I think laziness really is this canary in a coal mine kind of emotion that tells us when our values are out of step with our actual lives. A lot of times we pour so much energy into being impressive at work,

satisfying all the demands of our friends and family and just trying to overachieve in every possible way that we don't really listen to that inner voice that tells us,

"Here's what matters most to me in my life. Here's what I really believe in and value. And here's how I really would live if I wasn't just setting out to satisfy other people." I think when we start listening to laziness,

we can really question a lot of unfair social standards like fat phobia. This social standard says that our bodies need to look a certain way and that we need to exercise and cook meals that look a particular way. And it's just all of this drive towards meeting a really arbitrary standard of perfection. When we stop pushing ourselves to kind of overachieve by this completely arbitrary metric,

we can say,"OK,what actually feels good for my body?How do I actually want to spend my time?" How to fight overwork and over-identifying "hard work" with our worth I do have this exercise in the book,

but you can also get it online. It's just called the values clarification exercise,and it's something that a lot of therapists give out where it's just a list of different values that a person might have. You're asked to rank order them. It can be things like achievement,

family,connection,humility,care for other people. If you have to choose three of these values off of this really long list,

what are the three that you're going to choose?Because you can't actually fulfill all of them equally all of the time. Once you have a sense of what really matters most to you in your life ... then you can look at how your actual life is out of step. What to do if you're not in control of your time Most of us don't have that ultimate freedom to walk away from things that are exhausting to us and just work at a much slower pace. Unlearning the hatred of laziness isn't another thing to beat yourself up for not doing correctly,

because most of us are in a situation where our freedom and our choice is pretty restricted. If you're in a workplace where you aren't kind of trusted to self-motivate and you aren't given the room to set limits,

you are really in a coercive environment that's going to keep running you down. A lot of times it comes down to looking into things like unionizing,

documenting problems as they occur,demonstrating how when one person leaves the company,all of their work is just dumped onto someone else instead of replacing them. The podcast portion of this story was produced by Clare Marie Schneider,

with engineering support from Brian Jarboe.